Arrests can only be made if the stalker has already been warned by the police to stay away from you. If there is already a restraining order in place, the police must arrest the stalker. In the event of an arrest, the stalker will likely be bonded and released. Ask that a condition of the bond be no contact with you. Obtain copies of all documents and the name of the judge.

Document Everything Yourself. Record witnesses' names, dates, times, locations, and what the stalker was doing, saying, wearing, driving (licence plate number), etc. If it can be done safely, take pictures of the stalker. Law enforcement agencies log your complaint each time you call. Request a copy of each report.

Tell Family, Friends, Neighbors, And Co-Workers: Provide them with a description or photograph of the stalker. Ask them to watch for the stalker, to document everything listed above, and to give the written account to you.

Save All Written Material, Legal Documents, And Telephone Messages Recorded On Answering Machines: Save and date all cards, letters, notes and envelopes from the stalker. Obtain and keep all copies of warrants, protective orders, court orders, etc.

Report threatening calls to the telephone company. Make use of your telephone provider's tracing system and Caller ID. Dial *57 immediately after receiving a harassing phone call, and the call will be traced for a small fee. Be sure to log the date and time of each successfully traced call. Save and date all telephone messages, because they, too, can be utilized as evidence. Do NOT tape telephone conversations without telling the stalker her or she is being taped beforehand. It is illegal to tape someone without his/her knowledge, and renders such evidence useless.